Have you heard of letting it roll off your back but had no concrete direction on how to do so? Well, then this post will bring you relief, help you establish healthier boundaries, and better manage your time & energy, eliminating needless focus.
Recently, I was asked my opinion by a graduate professor. When I gave my answer, this individual insinuated I was wrong. How can I be wrong for an opinion? She's weird. While I needed to leave to go to the bathroom, I also needed to remove myself from the situation to breathe OUT my anger. I'm disappointed by another adult, who ought to know better and preaches I must be a responsible adult. Yikes!
Solutions:
- Havening and self-talk that tells me I'm lovable and worthy like being my own hype man.
- Reminding myself "This person is not important in my life."
- Know that listening to what other people tell you you should value sucks your time energy and joy. Clarify what you want.
- Consider it eats up all the energy and limited fucks you have in a day.
- Say no to things you never wanted to do. Accept and consider what's the worst that can happen if someone doesn't like it?...nothing!
Speed up your nos, slow down your yeses."
nurse mo, STRAIGHT A NURSING PODCAST
Recommended Reading For Further Concrete Ideas on Boundary Building
- Collean Bordeaux's How to Master the Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
- Sarah Knight's No Fuck's Given on Substack
- Sarah's has occasional free posts and they are all about boundary setting in different ways, not just saying no.
- Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
